Look at my darling family!! This picture is a year old but gives you a sense of my blessings:)
I remember after we were married, my husband and I would often hang out with some family members who had young children (not family members reading this blog). There was A LOT of yelling and I remember making a lot of promises with myself that this was not the way I would interact with my kids. Oh how things change when you actually have kids:)
I don't yell at my kids all day but there might be once a day when I might "lose it." I have come to learn that there are certain situations where it is a given I will yell. When my children clean their bedroom every Saturday, when my son refuses to do his homework, when my daughter pees her pants for the 5th time in one day and shows NO remorse, and when my kids hurt each other are the situations that lead to yelling. I have found that yelling is easy but rarely helps the situations and usually escalates it.
I came across the following blog call "The Orange Rhino Challenge" about a women who committed to not yell at her children for 365 days. I was inspired!
I wish I had great success to report but I DO NOT. I still yelled and some days I yelled a lot. It's been a long winter with lots of snow days and "inside days." I know these are excuses and I need to do better. The positive in the experience is that I am more aware so it leads to deescalation faster. April will be better!!
This little gem is turning two this week. I don't yell at him, who could?
Oh Matthew....he yells back...
This picture is important because she had just finished a 20 minute tantrum about how much she hates spaghetti then took a bite and loved it.
In April I am attacking my out-of-control recipes!!! Wish me luck!
7 comments:
So inspiring! Anna was an angel during her "terrible twos" but then 3 hit and I find myself yelling at her at least once a day. And for what? Dumb, insignificant stuff that doesn't matter. I have a rule with kids that come over that there is no yelling or screaming in this house. Well, I need to get better myself. I can't imagine having 4 kids and being able to keep my cool! Good job and keep it up!
Way to own up to the goal--even if it wasn't completely successful. Something I've done is reviewed escalated behavior after the fact and made specific decisions for future incidents. Less vague than "no yelling". Although I'm off to skim the lady wrote a whole blog about it. Paige confided in me yesterday that she hates it when I get mad.
That Paige has a sweet spirit:)
Haha! Real life! And that cracked me up about your little girl pitching a 20 minute tantrum over spaghetti, then loving the first bite. Good goal. Being a mom shows us our weaknesses, for sure!!
My Mom used to say that her patience went to bed at 8:00. I have found that mine does too. I think it is a constant in parenting for sure. Good Luck.
Great goal! I don't yell a very often but I sure did today when my youngest set the step stool right into the paint pan full of bright green paint! It didn't help the situation at all and she ended up sobbing in her room. Thanks for the reminder and inspiration/example. :)
This one is soooo tough! I'm a yeller too, but I try really hard to not yell at my kids. I have quite sore memories of my childhood because I really felt like I was yelled at all the time and I don't want my kids to remember me that way. Keep it up!
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